I came across this article on twitter by Samantha Johnson, When I Became A Mother, Feminism Let Me Down on Huffington Post. I do not have children but the article made me think and i believe it is thought provoking. She points out that women being taught traditional roles has become somewhat of a taboo because it reduces them to a role they played for many years ages ago.
While this must be true in the Western cultures I have to say it’s not the same in many African cultures. It is still common for women to be talked to before getting married about their role as a wife and a mother but that piece of information I find has not been taken seriously in he past few years. But that’s not the point here.
Is it feminism that fails women today when it come to motherhood? Is it society in general or is it patriarchy? One thing that is clear is that it’s not just one thing that has ‘failed’ women, it’s a combination of issues. Both men and women seem to be very unprepared when they start a family, not that it was working out so well in the past. But when it comes to the children today, many of them are disconnected from both parents. They do not seem to have any relationship with them, it’s all basically that they share the same DNA.
Saying Feminism is the cause of this is a bit of a stretch but I understand her point of view. If they could have prepared her for motherhood as much as they had prepared her for the corporate world in her feminist circle, maybe she could have found it easier to handle the stress that came with it all. And it’s not just women who need this but men too.
There have been responses to this article and I like the fact that people are talking about it because it opens the platform to discussing a problem I have been noticing lately in the Kenyan culture. Young parents are no longer raising their kids. Its the schools and media that do it for them. They are too busy at work or partying it up to look after their children. But to blame this just on feminism is a bit extreme.
Here are some of the responses to the article:
My Response: When I Became a Mother, Patriarchy Let Me Down by Dr. Julie Hanks
When I Became a Single Mother, Patriarchy Let Me Down by Bridget Jack Jeffries
I work my 9 to 5, better cut my check
This goes out to all the women getting it in,
You’re on your grind
To other men that respect what I do
Please accept my shine
Boy I know you love it
How we’re smart enough to make these millions
Strong enough to bear the children
Then get back to business